I'm avoiding things again. There's a wall within me that emerges
from the closed, dark room behind my lungs, blocking the neurotransmissions
that prompt me to do any homework at all. I know that this isn’t a reaction to any
distaste for boredom, because I'm genuinely excited for this psychology class.
And quite honestly, reading about psychology appeals more to me than anything
Tumblr has to offer at this hour. I hunger for solid knowledge, facts and
figures that can fuel my observations. I want to feel the satisfying whisper of
pencil against paper, the reaffirming squeal of hot pink highlighter against
pencil.
The good news is that I'm prismatic again. A long post-breakdown
sleep followed by an amazing day with friends sparked my zest for life again. I
never knew how to respond when I was asked if I lost interest in things and
activities I used to enjoy. I don't think I could ever genuinely answer,
"yes" to that question, but in retrospect, I can notice a dampening
of my interests. An overflow of creative urges is the norm for me, and I
haven't felt that in a while.
But I think the homework avoidance is more out of habit, like
psychological muscle memory. I think that my subconscious consistently used to
jumble my concentration in an effort to get me to face the truth of my
emotions. My subconscious recognized that I had something much more important
than work to take on. In all of its efforts to refocus my attention, I spent
all of my energy trying to avoid that focus, immersing myself in low-intensity internet
browsing instead of taking a simple fucking moment to look at myself. To ask
for help.
I've fortunately passed that benchmark. Recognition is the most
difficult battle in the war, but there are many, many battles. I have to
somehow destroy the anxiety I associate with homework. I have to train my brain
to focus on the present, because today, that's what I need. That's enough.
And I've come to many realizations lately, mostly fueled by my
dreams. So many useful realizations, in fact, that today, I thought to myself,
"WOW!!! I give myself the best advice in my dreams! They're exactly
tailored to my deepest feelings, fears, hopes, and anxieties. It's better than
a counselor!"
Hold up, Ali G.
Did you just (kinda) figure out
the essential benefit of sleeping?!!?!?!?!??!?!?!?
And the invaluable reason for dreaming?!?!?!?!??!?!
That it prepares you for the day/days to come?!?!?!?!??!
That you can't just skip out on that, because you will be
physically and emotionally unready as a result?!??!?!?!
That you are a human being, and that staying up doesn't make you a
demigod?!??!?! That it doesn't make you stronger, doesn't prove anything at
all?!?!??! That taking a moment (6 or more hours, preferably) of the deepest
"me time" known to science is something you not only deserve, but
require!??!??!??!?!?!?!?!?!
WWWHHHHHAAAAAOOOOOOHHHHHHHHTTTTTHHHHHHEEEERRRREEEE
Do I taste a breakthrough?
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I've been having a lot of ultra-clear, high-definition, super useful dreams
lately. They seem to come in clean episodes. Maybe it's my mind mirroring the
40-minute blocks of Breaking Bad I down on a regular basis. Maybe I'm too
clever for my own good.
One lesson I've learned from them is that I not only crave, but
need closeness more than anything. I had a series of dreams in which I either
reconnected with past crushes or talked to current crushes, and the time we
spent together was extremely brief, but honest and meaningful. There was no
screen of superficiality. Just brief, absolutely honest conversation. One ended
with an honest smile and a genuine wave of "’til next time," which
opened the door to further communication between us. One progressed to
hand-holding, walking together actually cheek-to-cheek, feeling each other's
warm, energy mingling, bodies close. The third resulted in a public display of
closeness, but there was no anxiety surrounding it. We exchanged a few words,
but mostly had our bodies close, not looking directly at each other, but tangled
in an embrace with our faces against each other, close enough to kiss, but not
kissing. None of the dream encounters I had with these boys were sexual, or
even romantic; they were mostly honest and spiritually powerful. What I need,
and what I crave, is closeness like this--not just with crushes, but friends,
potential friends, everyone I care about. Giving all of myself to someone can
be done in small but meaningful actions, and it's always worth it. I could live
off of that feeling alone.
So, friends and stalkers, here's my declaration: at the risk of rejection, I am
willing to get close to people. That's step one, always. Romance comes in its
own time. Closeness is the seed of all social meaning in life.
I better sleep before this entire post becomes hypocritical.
Love forever,
Ali